Blowjob
The ‘blowjob’ - simply refers to oral sex performed on a penis, dildo or strap-on.
Fellatio, or as it's more commonly known, the blowjob, is an act as old as time. Ancient art, historic texts, you name it - it's been around. But despite its prevalence, the blowjob is more than just an act of getting someone off. It's a Pandora's box of pleasure, trust, and power.
In the exploration of the 'blowjob', it's essential to acknowledge that people's experiences and feelings about this act can greatly vary. Just as it is with any sexual act, personal comfort levels, past experiences, and individual preferences come into play.
For those who enjoy giving blowjobs, it can be a multifaceted experience. Pleasure derived from giving can be just as potent as receiving. Some derive satisfaction from the ability to provide pleasure to their partner, a feeling that can be deeply empowering. It can also be a way to feel close and connected, a shared intimate act that strengthens bonds.
In the context of kink, some individuals might enjoy the power dynamics associated with giving a blowjob. For a submissive, it might be the pleasure of obeying a dominant’s command, while for a dominant, it can be about controlling the pace and depth of the act.
However, not everyone shares these sentiments, and there are those who might be hesitant or uncomfortable with giving blowjobs. Reasons can range from past negative experiences or trauma to physical discomfort, such as gag reflex issues. Some might feel pressured or objectified during the act, while others might not find it appealing or satisfying.
Cultural or religious beliefs can also contribute to a person's comfort level. Some individuals may have been brought up with beliefs that stigmatize certain sexual acts, and these can deeply impact their comfort and willingness to participate.
This underscores the need for open communication between partners. Discussing one's comfort levels, setting boundaries, and expressing desires is a crucial aspect of a healthy and satisfying sexual relationship. Remember, what's enjoyable for one person might not be for another, and that's okay. Mutual respect and consent should always be the guiding principles.
Regardless of the context, the foundational principles of safety, consent, and communication must underline any act within the realms of intimacy or kink. It's critical for partners to discuss boundaries, comfort levels, and preferences, whether they're concerning protection, the depth of penetration during a blowjob, or preferences around ejaculation.
At Progressive Therapeutic Collective, we are proudly sex-positive and kink-affirming counselling and sex therapy practice. We work hard to reduce shame and instead, encourage open and supportive conversations about our sexual selves.
We work across Australia via telehealth.