Pets & domestic violence
Pets are often the silent victims in situations of family and domestic violence. In many instances, abusers may target pets as a method to exert control and manipulate their victim/survivors. This can include threats of harm or actual harm to the pet, using the pet to coerce or control the victim/survivor's actions, or neglecting the pet's care as a form of psychological abuse. This tactic significantly increases the trauma and stress for victim/survivors, who not only fear for their own safety but also for the well-being of their cherished animals.
The bond between individuals and their pets is profound, and for many, pets are considered part of the family. This strong emotional connection can complicate decisions about leaving an abusive environment. Victim/survivors often face the distressing reality that escaping their situation might mean leaving their pets behind, particularly when they have no feasible means to ensure the pets’ safety outside their home. Many shelters for victim/survivors of domestic violence do not accommodate pets, and finding temporary housing or foster care for animals in a crisis can be challenging. This leaves victim/survivors with the heart-wrenching choice between their safety and the safety of their pets.
The reluctance to leave pets behind is a significant barrier to escaping domestic violence. Victim/survivors may delay or altogether refuse to leave abusive situations out of concern for their pets, fearing that the abuser might escalate harm towards the animals if they depart. This fear is not unfounded, as abusers often use pets as leverage against victim/survivors who attempt to leave.
Recognising this issue, some organizations and services have started to address the need for pet safety in situations of domestic violence. Programs like the RSPCA’s Safe Bed for Pets offer temporary housing for pets, enabling victim/survivors to arrange safe escapes for themselves and their animals. These programs are crucial in providing a more comprehensive support system that considers all family members, including pets, thereby removing a significant obstacle to leaving abusive environments.
Hints and Tips for Managing Pets in Situations of Domestic Violence:
Documentation: Keep a file with your pet's documents (vaccination records, registration, any previous threats or harm) as proof of ownership and care.
Safety Plan for Pets: Include your pets in your safety planning. Identify a safe place for them, such as with a friend, family member, or a pet shelter program.
Emergency Kit: Prepare an emergency kit for your pets that includes food, water, a leash, medication, and any other necessary supplies.
Secure Transportation: Arrange for safe transportation for your pets when you are ready to leave. This may involve coordinating with friends, family, or pet rescue organizations.
Legal Protection: Inquire about including pets in protection orders, as some jurisdictions allow for pets to be included in such legal measures.
Support Networks: Build a network of support that includes veterinarians, local animal shelters, and pet-friendly domestic violence resources that understand the intersection of pet safety and family violence.